Today, I had a call from one of my girls. It went kind of like this:
Girl: Dr. Lauren, I have been feeling really anxious for the past three days.
Me: That’s because you made a commitment to yourself to not do stupid shit that feels good now but feels awful long-term. You’re jonesin’
Girl: I know. But, last week, I thought I was getting better. I’m getting worse!
Me: You’re feeling worse, because you’re getting better.
Girl: What? Aren’t I doing all of this to feel better?
Me: No, you’re doing this to be better.
Girl: Well, won’t being better make me feel better?
Me: Sometimes. It’s a process, not a destination.
Girl: F@ck. Okay, I feel better now.
Me: How come? Nothing changed since you were freaking out.
Girl: I know it’s just part of the process, and I’m moving in the right direction.